Making friends with comparison

The other day I’d just finished up a piece of work I’d been doing on my computer and feeling pretty chuffed with the finished product. 🤩

I instinctively lifted my phone to check for any messages before I headed down for a cup of tea. 🫖 

And just like that I was lost in the scroll. I couldn’t even tell you how it happened. It was so instinctive that I didn’t have the opportunity to stop myself. 📱 

I was on the profile of another coach, suddenly feeling like I wasn’t good enough. With each post of hers that I saw, a different story came up. 😕

I’m not funny enough, not articulate enough, not creative enough, not direct enough.....and so it went on. 😳

I had to tear myself away. But the stories stayed. 🙄

Now, as a coach I know the drill here, it’s something that I’ve worked on a lot. I know those stories aren’t true, that they are things that I am telling myself and believe if to be true. I would never say them out loud about someone else, but I’ll quite happily think them about me! And I also know that I can choose to turn them around. ☺️

We all know that comparison isn’t good for us, but sometimes it happens so automatically that we don’t even realise that’s what it is. We just think that the stories are the truth. 🤨

If you’d like to hear more, tune into this PODCAST episode where I talk about:

• How to tell when you’re in the comparison spiral

• Why comparison is typically unhelpful

• How to make comparison our friend