I’m going to start with a bit of an assumption here 🧐

If you’re a mum reading this then I expect you will at some point have said some version of…

”When things settle down I’ll…”

And almost inevitably, that ‘settling down’ takes an awful lot longer than anticipated. 

Am I right? 😛

What I’ve found, both from my own experience and those of my clients, is that when we go through these times in our business it can lead to all sorts of problems. 😬

Where, when we finally get to the point when things have actually ‘settled down’ we feel so out of touch with what we were doing, what we should be doing next and maybe even questioning what our business is even all about! 🤷🏼‍♀️

Do you relate?

On the surface it looks like the problem is that we 

👉🏼 just need to figure out how to get back to social media, 

👉🏼 or restart our email newsletter, 

👉🏼 or do whatever we need to to make a sale.

But actually, underneath all of this is often a voice telling us that we should have been better.

We shouldn’t have dropped the ball like this. 

That maybe we just don’t have what it takes to be a successful business owner.

And what I see, is that overcoming those feelings is actually the thing that makes it hard to get back. Not the practicality of doing the thing. 💛

This feels super relevant for me just now, where I sit here writing this from exactly the place I describe above. Where things have eventually settled down, after taking an awful lot longer than I anticipated to settle down!

Two of the big things for me over these last few weeks were my son starting school and a few weeks later me going off on an 8 day training / retreat in Holland. 🌿

I didn’t quite anticipate the emotional intensity of either of these and so I was sort of creating some space for that on the go. Which meant that I let other things slip.

And the reason that I can share it, is because maybe for the first time ever, I don’t feel wrapped up in the story that I’ve failed in some way (or not completely anyway, haha!).

One of the massive things that I took away from the retreat I was on was the privilege of seeing super skilled facilitators in action. 

It helped me o realise how much I have been valuing getting things done in as short a time as possible. When I’m super passionate about something, as I am about my business, this feels like a way to show my passion.

But actually I learned that there can be so much value in taking things slowly. In using small steps of progress to demonstrate passion and commitment to something you care about.

And so writing this feels like a small step for me, but an important one.

I’d love to know how it lands. Do you recognise this in yourself, either in business or other areas?

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