My aunt and uncle used to take regular trips to Italy back in the days when we did that sort of thing. ️ 

They came back raving about this unusual orange aperitif that everyone there was drinking. They’d decided to get onboard and had acquired the taste for this acquired taste!

When I mentioned that it was stocked in our local Tesco their day was made. 

I added a couple of bottles to our weekly shop and gifted it to my auntie. 🛒 

We had a bit of a back and forth about who was going to pay, me insisting it was a gift and her insisting it was a favour that should be compensated. 

In the end I gave in and she paid. 

Because what she said became a bit of a life lesson. 

She said that actually, they had every intention of keeping up the Campari habit and if she wanted to ask me to buy more she’d feel uncomfortable doing so if I was also going to pay every time. 🤨

To me, it’s a bit like asking someone to do something and they say yes, but you suspect that underneath it they really mean no. Next time you come to ask it feels a bit uncomfortable, like they might be feeling forced into doing something they don’t really want to do. 

And this perspective is why I feel that saying no, is actually the more compassionate thing to do in a lot of circumstances.

This is what I’m talking about on the PODCAST this week, How to start saying no more.

Tune in to hear me talk about:

• When it happens

• Why it happens

• Steps towards growing your confidence in saying no

You can listen on Apple Podcasts HERE.

You can listen on Spotify HERE.

Do you struggle to say no to requests of your time and energy? If so drop me an email at hey@debbielee.co.uk because I have a few free invites to a resource that might help.